i recently bought the missing cord for my digital camera, and i can already tell i’m going to be a menace with this thing.
i have been wanting to take pictures of this period in my life, in case there weren’t any words to describe it, but there are.
the most surprising thing about the transition i’m effecting is how much peace and calm i’m feeling.
every so often, i run over the day i graduated in my mind. would i have done anything differently?
the answer is no. i’m a passionate woman, once aroused, and my passion was – but i was defending myself. i felt disrespected and hurt; i owned that. i tried to express that, not to place blame, but in order to fix and move on.
it didn’t get the intended result, of bridging a gap and opening communication (in fact, the opposite), but my soul feels like i’m respecting it.
which is always a good thing.
and i’ve been taking care of myself.
i’ve been quite adamant about that, actually. this means fresh air. making sure daisy gets outside (and takes me with her). eating well. getting enough rest. staying washed and groomed.
also, a few indulgences. a chestnut/raspberry/jam cheesecake to celebrate my graduation.
good coffee.
beer with the neighbours.
a documentary film festival with one of my favourite people in the universe.
registering for an all day yoga workshop next weekend.
making plans for the anarchist book fair the week after.
talking with friends. being reflective. owning up to the responsibilities i have. holding myself accountable. and most importantly, being extremely kind to myself.
so what do i want to do?
the last of my grades rolled in today. i’m extremely proud of myself. this year, as i juggled 2 or 3 jobs, 4 classes, and the rest of my life (grad applications last semester, scholarships, loans, taxes, poverty), i pulled off mostly A’s, with two B+s. this means that my g.p.a is raised by .10.
this is good if i want to go to grad school. it also means that the risk i took last fall paid off.
my academic mentor is after me to make my applications next year. she will be moving to another university, in a rural town, (we laughed and laughed at the idea of her in high heeled rubber boots, walking across the farm fields to work, or perhaps adopting a pot-bellied pig, a la george clooney…it’s similar to putting barbie in overalls, basically) but she will still be walking me through the process.
if i choose.
my godsister spruces up resumes for a living. i’m enlisting her to help me create a professional looking c.v.
i’d like to look into getting an advertising job…something where i could make a good living and use my skills as a writer, while i wait for my opportunity to make it creatively.
other than that, i want a clean apartment.
to get my typewriter spruced up and park-worthy.
it’s really funny how little time i want to spend chained to my desk now that i don’t have to anymore.
i never really wanted to. i did it for school, and out of respect to a preferred method of communication.
for me, i need people. i need hugs. i need to spend time with myself and with others. i need to be creative.
it’s nice to know that my life has always been here, waiting for my head to clear.
remarkably without drama. with a lot of beautiful, beautiful gifts in it.
i didn’t really get much “time off” before i was thrown back into working full-time. which turned out to be a blessing. my work is ferking crazy a lot of the time (to the extent that people constantly ask me how/why i stay on there, after almost 3 years) and sometimes, the answer becomes clear to me.
i work in a small space. a lot of the customers are regulars, so after years of being with them, knowing their eating habits and their health concerns, a lot of them are more like friends or familial figures than anything else.
i know i try and create family wherever i go. but it was good to be able to answer the “how did school go?” question with, “i graduated”, and get congratulations for that. to be told what an accomplishment it was. be able to own that, as well.
also, to be told that i’m apparently so determined that i will be able to accomplish anything.
i’m feeling tired, to be sure.
but a good tired. a tired like i’ve run a huge marathon and i passed the finish line and there’s a massage and buckets full of ice waiting for my sore feet.
it’s also been a bit crazy (does anyone know what’s going on with the moon?) angela’s motorcycle had a malfunction on the highway at 110 km/hour on her way to work; she almost skidded into oncoming traffic and died. she didn’t, she came out unscratched. but fielding that call from my sobbing friend was lovely.
a few days later, rachel was biking to work, a car ran a stop sign, hit her and left. she was thrown into trees and broke a few ribs.
a dear customer’s cancer is back.
all this impresses on me is how precious this life is.
how poignant every human connection.
how much love my heart can ultimately hold.
it’s surprising.
after all i’ve put it through, all it’s experienced, that’s all i feel.
this week is beltane.
may day.
a time for healing, rebirth, new growth. a very potent time to make changes and to be.
i’ll be observing its passage in my own way. with my blue candle and my gemstones and a piece of parchment paper to write my wishes down.
what says healing to your heart?
p.s. god, this camera is amazing. i lovelovelove it.